BE TRUE TO YOURSELF
How can we be true to others, if we aren’t true to ourselves?
I don’t know whether it is an age specific thing for women, I seem to be surrounded by women of my age who appear to be at a crossroads in their lives. Maybe it’s that they are now about to enter a period of their lives where their children no longer depend on them quite as much (apart from being the occasional taxi!) or maybe it is something that happens to us as we reach our 50’s/60’s. I don’t have children so I don’t have that as an excuse!
It’s all too often explained as wanting some “Me time” but I don’t think that’s it…we all manage to find some “Me time” whether it’s when we have a bath or listen to the radio in a car on the way to the supermarket or even as a Mum in the kitchen cooking the evening meal, I don’t think that’s the thing.
I think it’s that as a species on the whole, we are destined to care for others, be it children, husbands, parents and even neighbours, we automatically ‘give and care’. We adapt. I’m not saying that we no longer have that ability but I do think we’re at an age where we wonder;
Were we true to ourselves?
For example when the children want to watch something on the TV how many Mum’s would say “Actually, I want to watch something” and settle down in front of the television while the kids go off and find something else to do? How many wives have been in the situation whereby they say nothing just to keep the peace but if the shoe were on the other foot?????? I don’t mean to be controversial or feminist, that’s not what I’m trying to say here but (ladies) ask yourself this, how many times have you said “Yes” when you really wanted to say “No”? How many times have you bumped into someone and felt obliged to stand and chat and ask about their health, family, dog, cat, kids and garden etc etc….when a man would simply throw a hand in the air and shout “Morning” and continue on his way. You see – the way I see it, the man in this situation is being true to himself!!
I’m quite sure there are men up and down the country (not to mention the world) thinking ‘Oh for goodness sake, what’s got into her now?” We are trying to be true to ourselves and it is mistaken for ‘asserting’ ourselves.
I just feel that I’m ready for something. It’s not a regret, not a mistake, not even something that was missing – it’s just something I need now. Oh I apologise if this isn’t making any sense!!!
Photography and blogging has definitely filled a great big hole in my life and I’m thoroughly enjoying it and intend to pursue it to another level. It has brought me another dimension to my life, I had no idea it would have this affect and if people had told me this, I would never have believed them. It makes me extremely happy and although I’m only on Day 74 I have a feeling this will be with me for a good while. However some of my female friends haven’t found their thing yet. All I can do is wish them luck and hope they will find it soon….
To those of you who haven’t understood a word of this, don’t worry, just thank your lucky stars you don’t have to put up with me in person!
To all the men who read this and think I’m bonkers – you’re probably right!
To all the girls who read this and understand what I’m trying to say, THANK YOU!!