DAY 133 (Please don’t put me in a home!)

Watch out…I’m back!

Have PC – will blog!!

Following a conversation that I’ve had with two friends recently…and given the terrible headlines on the news this week, regarding a lovely lady who was treated appallingly in a care home…..…I was reduced to tears when I saw the footage.
One of my own personal fears is that if I survive my husband, I will be alone.  I have no children and I am the youngest of the siblings.  I would therefore be at the mercy of the state to put me where they think fit.  I hope that I’m taken in my sleep or have a massive heart attack or stroke and just leave this world without causing too much inconvenience!

When these dear old people are placed in homes, their carers don’t ‘know‘ them, they didn’t know them when they were young, beautiful, active and attractive people, they are simply a job that needs doing during their busy days.  Wash, feed and bathe and that isn’t always done with the dignity that these aged people deserve.

It breaks my heart. When my mother had a stroke, we three sisters sat at her bedside for 12 days, 24 hours a day until she passed away. Firstly because we wanted her to know we were there but also I fear, that in the back of our minds was the fact that we didn’t trust someone who didn’t know her, to look after her in the way we would.  We did her nails, brushed her hair, wiped her brow, and moisturised her hands and legs, I know carers/nurses don’t have the time to do this….surely something is wrong with the system.  We pay so much attention to people who are living and growing up and yet so little seems to be there for when we are on our way out!

I know that having children doesn’t guarantee someone to look after you…but I’m sure it softens the outlook!

Anyway enough of the doom and gloom….time for some photos that I have taken over the last couple of days….bearing in mind that it has been absolutely miserable here….I think I now have foot rot!!!

The calm before the storm

I just love the depth of colour in this flower

Take a seat and soak your feet!!

Very murky waters as the river has burst it's banks

This looks like he feels really sorry for himself!!

I hope you all have a good week…if you need me – I’ll be playing on the computer!!!

Take care.


10 thoughts on “DAY 133 (Please don’t put me in a home!)

  1. I’ve been very quiet of late, and am almost afraid to speak about this, for fear once I get started, I won’t ever stop. Let me just say this … I’m also appalled and horrified at the abuse, and yet, I know it is all too common, especially with those that are unable to speak for themselves. It is heartbreaking. I won’t say more.

    Glad you have your computer back. We surely become attached to their availability.

    So sorry about all the flooding. What a mess it leaves behind.

    Lovely photos, as always.

    • Yes it’s a very sad state of affairs. I can’t believe how the elderly are treated. Anyway like you say, don’t get me started. You have been quiet…you ok? As for the rain, say no more, I’m so fed up with it!

      • it’s been a rough couple of weeks, but I think I’m finally coming up for air … sometimes we just have to wait it out. really glad to hear your computer is working again! THAT can make a person crazy! 🙂

      • Glad to hear you’re better and back with the blogging! I’ve found it tough without the computer, I feel as though I’ve lost touch. Back on track now…:)

  2. I know someone who, like you, has no children and is the youngest. She conquers her fear by helping those who are alone with the faith that when it is her turn, someone will be there to help her.

    • I actually applied for a job recently working with the elderly with Alzheimer’s, and although initially I thought I would be ‘good’ at it, after one session, i did enjoy it however I knew I wouldn’t be able to switch off at the end of the day. The job would come home with me. At the risk of sounding fickle I don’t know if I have it in me! I think your friend deserves a massive pat on the back.

  3. love your post, 29th April, so real, having watched mum go through that awful time in hospital, the nurses and carers are so busy with their routine they dont see the people, thay are just objects, there is no connection with the poor souls lying in their beds, i think you have expressed every ones worse fears about being old and frail and alone….. scary

    • It’s a sad state of affairs isn’t it? I’m going to keep in touch with my friends (you know who you are!) and you can look after me!! I’ve been thinking about you a lot recently xx

  4. The fear of being alone, unprotected and helpless is a provasive theme with folks I know. I just keep holding this image of a bunch of us living together, taking care as best we can and then don’t allow my mind to live in fear of the future. Fear can be so dibilitating..

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